No desire, no resistance, no suffering

  We arrive at every moment in life with certain desires, expectations, and with intentions of what we have to offer and/or take. We also bring an energy that reflects our intentions. Our energy is  a result of our thoughts, emotions, values, and the ability to manage our behavior. We function to have our basic needs of survival met, but often we depend on our senses having pleasure to be able to enjoy a moment. We then feel disappointed when our senses aren't being satisfied and can't enjoy that moment. Desire always results in suffering.

   Since we all know what it is like to be some where you don't want to be, we have all experienced resistance to being in a moment. It could be in traffic, just broke 2 ribs and have no income, at your dead end job at any hour, hearing a song you can't stand at target, or the story of old people walking 10 Miles a day uphill both ways in the snow and barefoot to get to school. If you are suffering a terminal illness or just waiting too long for fast food when you're high at 12:3am you recognize the suffering that comes with resistance. The feeling of dread that accompanies this is a well known result of resistance. Resistance always results in suffering.

   If our intention is to enjoy moments of life we must recognize the need for balance between no desire and no resistance. This state of being free from want, at the same time as acceptance of any circumstance. Not needing any thing external, because our intention is to choose to be grateful for right now. There is a place of refuge. If you ask yourself  "what it would be like if you could be happy no matter was going on in life?", and then realize that option is available by your choice. At any given time you can experience rest like shelter in a storm. Refuge is always available, it is the spot that is calm in the middle of every storm. You tell yourself it makes no sense to be happy, and just choose to be happy. It didn't realize this was always an option until about two and half years ago. Now is better.